This is one of those rare books that skillfully
combines theological insight while providing very clear helps in self-discovery
and in counseling others. It has helped me listen a whole lot better, allowing
me to frame better questions that help counselees understand themselves better
and resolve inner conflict.
The book is organized into three sections. The first
lays out how the heart responds to life with the interplay between the cognitive,
affective and volitional components of the heart. The second section explores what
the heart dynamically responds to (God, self, others and circumstances). The third section lays out a counseling
methodology. This third section is also quite useful for interpersonal ministry
of the Word.
In the first section the author gives a definition of
what the bible means by the word “heart” and lays out implications for our
understanding of the unity of the mind, will and emotions in our responses to
life. He covers the heart as corrupted, redeemed and explores how the heart is
affected by external conditions.
The second section has a very helpful chapter titled “Self
and Identity” where he carefully explains how beliefs, values and commitments get
absorbed into the center of our identity and how this gets directed either to
self-glory or to the glory of God.
Everything is pulled together in the third section
where there is practical help in four areas: listening that helps us hear where
people’s hearts are, reflecting or helping people to understand their heart
responses, relating to Jesus as the author and finisher of their faith and
renewing or calling people to new responses from faith.
This book has helped me to see more clearly the nature
and causes of inner conflict that I often experience due to conscience and the
dynamic interplay between what I know, what I actually love (tainted by sin)
and what I want to do because of circumstances or desire to please others. Because
this is often complicated, the framework and the suggested questions in the
third section helped me sort out the reasons for my response in certain
troubling situations and thereby helped me to pursue the right remedy for a
more Godly response.
At times the book seemed to be repetitive and a little
confusing. One example is the use of different terms for the functional areas
first defined as cognitive, affective and volitional. Sometimes the author
refers to these as thought-desire-choice, mind-emotions-will,
cognitive-affectional-volitional or as verbs think-feel-value.
This book is a worthy addition to the library of
experienced counselors, Stephen Ministers or anyone who desires to help people
live more Godly lives.
I
received this book from New Growth Press in exchange for an honest review.